Success: Simple, Not Easy

"Decide what you want. Decide what you are willing to exchange for it. Establish your priorities and go to work."~H.L. Hunt

Right there are the 4 steps to success.  It's really simple.  1) Decide what you want. 2) Decide what you are willing to exchange for it. 3) Establish your priorities and 4) Go to work.  SEE??  Real simple...however it isn't easy!

The first thing that makes it difficult is that most people don't know what they want.  Let me repeat that, MOST PEOPLE DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY WANT!  "I know what I want" you say, "I want to be rich, I want to have a cool car, I want to be skinnier."  What does rich mean?  What's a cool car?  Skinnier than what?  We think we know what we want however without specificity, it means nothing!  Be specific in what you want.  I want to have a million dollars in the bank in 3 years.  I want a BMW X5 by summer.  I want to lose 25 pounds by the end of the year.  Specificity!!!

The second reason that it's difficult is that we aren't willing to make the exchange for what we really want.  We settle for what we have now and will not let go even for something better! We know what we need to exchange to get what we want...we just won't make that exchange.

The third reason that it's difficult is that we never establish our priorities.  We say that we don't have enough time, well, time management is not about time management.  We all get the same amount of time.  It's more about priority management.  It's difficult to manage our priorities if we have never established them in the first place!

And the fourth reason that it's difficult is that YOU HAVE TO GO TO WORK!!  I hate to say it, most people only work at a 50% level, leaving 50% on the table and calling that the best they can do!  What would happen to your business or job if you were able to give 20% more, just up to 70%?

See, the 4 steps are really simple, they are just not easy!

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"Decide what you want. Decide what you are willing to exchange for it. Establish your priorities and go to work."

YOU Choose!

"With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose."~Wayne W. Dyer

So, do you feel sorry for yourself or do you treat what has happened as a gift?  Most people just feel sorry for themselves and it keeps them stuck where they are.  Oh sure, once in a while they step out of their victimhood however it's only for a short time and then they are back feeling sorry for themselves.

Ken Keyes Jr said “To be upset over what you don't have is to waste what you do have.”  Most people are upset over what they don't have or what they feel they aren't getting from someone else and waste what they do have.  Is that you?  I hope not.

Do you see everything as an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing? What a wonderful thing to see everything as an opportunity to grow!  We need to teach our children this.  Did you not do something right?  An opportunity to grow, not a failure.  didn't get that client?  An opportunity to grow, not a failure.  How different would our society be if we looked at failure as an opportunity to grow and not failure?  Henry Ford said "Failure is the opportunity to begin again more wisely."  An opportunity to grow!

YOU GET TO CHOOSE!  Feel sorry for yourself or a gift.  An opportunity to grow or failure?
It's always been you choice, no one elses!!

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"With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose."

Don't Stay Stuck In Your Mistakes

"We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here now with the power to shape your day and your future."~Steve Maraboli

THAT'S LIFE!!  We all make mistakes, have struggles and regret.  The key is to let them go and not dwell on them.  Ralph Waldo Emerson said "Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly."  What did he mean by that?  He meant that whenever you do something new, there is going to be a learning curve and when you start, you will do it poorly.  However, the more you do it the better you become at doing it.  It's not that the task get's any easier, it's just that you become better at doing it!

Here's the key, don't stay stuck in your mistakes and struggles.  You are not your mistakes.  So what that you didn't get it right?  You are not your struggles.  Start over again and do it better. Just keep working on it!  Don't stop.  You have the power to shape your future and it all hinges on you continuing to work at it.

Maraboli goes on to say "Your greatest self has been waiting your whole life; don't make it wait any longer."  Are you making your whole life wait?  Stop it!  You are the one who is in control of your future, no one else.

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"We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here now with the power to shape your day and your future."

Learn To Expect, Not To Doubt

"If you expect the best, you will be the best. Learn to use one of the most powerful laws in this world; change your mental habits to belief instead of disbelief. Learn to expect, not to doubt. In so doing, you bring everything into the realm of possibility."~Dr. Norman Vincent Peale

Do you expect the best?  Or do you have disbelief and doubt?  Why?

Most people are scared to expect the best.  They've been told not to expect the best because if the don't get it they will be disappointed.  So what if you are disappointed?  Learn from it and move on!  However, to not expect the best because of fear of failure just brings about failure!

I teach sales people and in my workshops, I always ask them, "When you go to an appointment with a prospect, do you expect to make the sale?"  90% of them will say that they do NOT expect to make the sale.  To that I say WHY GO TO THE APPOINTMENT AT ALL!?  If you don't expect to make the sale you are wasting your time and your prospects time. Just stay home.

Expect wonderful things to happen, not in the future but right now!  We are good at expecting good things to happen when...just not right now.  Change that because when you do, you will bring everything into the realm of possibility.  EVERYTHING!

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"If you expect the best, you will be the best. Learn to use one of the most powerful laws in this world; change your mental habits to belief instead of disbelief. Learn to expect, not to doubt. In so doing, you bring everything into the realm of possibility."

Failure Is Harsh, But The Best Teacher

“Failure is a teacher – a harsh one, perhaps, but the best...  That's what I have to do when an idea backfires or a sales program fails.  You've got to put failure to work for you ... you can be discouraged by failure or you can learn from it.  So go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can.  Because that's where you will find success.  On the far side of failure.”~Thomas J. Watson

Failure.  the word conjures up bad memories, times we were ridiculed, laughed at and shunned because we were wrong.  That's part of the "Harsh teacher" Watson is talking about.  I'm sure you've felt it and can remember it like it was yesterday.  Maybe it even was yesterday however you have to make that failure work for you!

We need to reframe that word, failure.  "A learning experience," "feedback," "course correction," "An opportunity to begin again more intelligently," "A chance to develop my sense of humor," "An opportunity to perfect my performance."  How do you reframe failure?

You can get discouraged by failure or you can learn from it.  Failure is hardly ever fatal.  Quitting is fatal and final.   Don't let a failure stop you from becoming who and what you want to become.  Watson also said that "If you want to succeed, fail faster."

Failure is GOOD!  Making mistakes lead to success!  Because on the far side of failure is where you will find success!

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“Failure is a teacher – a harsh one, perhaps, but the best...  That's what I have to do when an idea backfires or a sales program fails.  You've got to put failure to work for you ... you can be discouraged by failure or you can learn from it.  So go ahead and make mistakes. Make all you can.  Because that's where you will find success.  On the far side of failure.”

The Fear Of What Other People Think

“The greatest prison that people live in is the fear of what other people think.”
~David Icke

Are you stuck in that prison?  A lot of people are.  A lot of people live their lives constantly worrying about what other people are thinking about them.  If that's you I've got some great news for you.  Are you ready?  You sure?  Here it comes...You don't need to worry about what other people are thinking about you because...THEY AREN'T THINKING ABOUT YOU!

Most other people are so worried about themselves that they don't have any time to think about you. They are caught up in their own life issues or maybe they are so worried about what you are thinking about them they don't have room to think about you.  What do you think about that?

Remember when you had that great idea and you told someone and they thought the idea sucked?  Did you move forward on that idea or did you drop it?  Chances are you dropped it because you were valuing their view on things more than your own!  Since when did we decide that other people's views are more important than our own?  We too often dismiss our ideas when someone else thinks it's stupid or dumb or bad.  

Can you imagine Thomas Edison telling people he was going to produce light from electricity? What do think they said to him?  What about when the Wright Brothers were working in their bicycle shop and told one of their customers that they were building a flying machine?  

Stop living in that prison and break out now!
"It's none of my business what you think of me."
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“The greatest prison that people live in is the fear of what other people think.”

Are You Part Of the 3% Or The 97%?

"When plans are laid in advance, it is surprising how often the circumstances fit in with them."~Sir William Osler

Have you created your Success Plan for your business and life? Really? Is it written down? Only 3% of all people have a plan that is written down. So, are you part of the 3% or part of the 97%?

It shouldn't be surprising how often the circumstances fit in with the plans you make (and write down). We create what we think about, so it only makes sense that when we have planned, the circumstances fit like they were meant to. A lot of people tell me that they don't have to write down their plans, because they have them in their heads. The problem with that is that sometimes you don't remember things. When you have your plan written down and in a place where you can see it, it reminds you of what you want as opposed to thinking about what you don't want, which is what most of us do.

Ralph Waldo Emerson said "To map out a course and follow it to some end requires courage." It does require courage because when you make a plan, you then become accountable to working on the plan. Most people are not willing to become accountable...even to their own goals and plans.  And that's why only 3% of all people write down their plans!

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"When plans are laid in advance, it is surprising how often the circumstances fit in with them."

Switch From Negative To Positive

“People deal too much with the negative, with what is wrong... Why not see positive things, to just touch those things and make them bloom?”~Thich Nhat Hanh

Is that you? Dealing too much in the negative? Most people like to think that they are positive people but think about it. How much time do you spend thinking about what you have or can do versus thinking about what you DON'T have and what you CAN"T DO???

Our brains naturally go to the negative and it is a trained mind that can flip that switch from the negative to the positive. Is your mind trained? I hope so. Here's the thing...it's kind of like golf, you can never master it and you need to constantly work on it. t's real easy to drift back to the negative without even realizing it.  Are you constantly working on your positive thinking?  

One way to do that is through gratitude. The more you are grateful, the more things you see to be grateful for.  Melody Beattie said "Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more." Wow, how powerful is that?!? It turns what we have into enough, and more!! It is the Law of Attraction at work. The more we focus on gratitude, the more things we have to be grateful for. What are you grateful for today?

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“People deal too much with the negative, with what is wrong... Why not see positive things, to just touch those things and make them bloom?”

Limiting Past Or Limitless Potential?

"I can change. I can live out my imagination instead of my memory. I can tie myself to my limitless potential instead of my limiting past."~Stephen Covey

Are you living out of your imagination or out of your memory?  Most people are simply living out of their memory and because of that, they never get to where they really want to go.  Is that you? Are you stuck reliving the same old stuff, day after day, almost like that movie "Groundhog Day?"  If so, do what Bill Murray did in the movie.  He took the opportunity to learn new things, to grow and become more than he was and get what he wanted to get.  Your life isn't so different.

The challenge we face is described here by Wallace Wattles when he says, "You can never get rich, or start the creative power into action, by sending out unformed longings and vague desires."  Most people want to be "happy" or "rich" or "have a nice house."  All things that are unformed longings and vague desires.  GET SPECIFIC with what you want!  

Don't spend any time thinking about what you DON'T WANT.  Why?  Because that just attracts more of what you don't want!  You have to train your brain to focus on all the good things that you have and not on what you lack.  Focusing on your abundance, even if it's a small amount of abundance will bring you more abundance!  Your brain wants you to focus on all the things you don't have.  Work on making that brain of yours work for you, instead of against you!

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"I can change. I can live out my imagination instead of my memory. I can tie myself to my limitless potential instead of my limiting past."

Power In The Present Moment

"What's the good of dragging up sufferings which are over, of being unhappy now just because you were then." ~Seneca

Your greatest power is always in the present moment. When you re-live past misery in the present you are committing an act of violence against yourself. When misery from the past enters your consciousness you have the power to choose how to view it. What choice do you make?

Stop living in the past!  Just because something happened once before doesn't mean that it will happen again.  Too many people like to stay in the past because it serves them somehow.  They like to play the "victim."  They like to get sympathy.  It's a pain that they are familiar with so they hang on to it.  Don't be that person!!

Here are a couple of self confronting questions to bring you into the present: "What am I trying to accomplish today?" "What one thing am I not doing --that if I did do, would greatly improve my life six months from now? Think ahead, not behind.

Take some time and answer those questions. I know that the answers will give you the direction and power to make it happen.

Finally, two thoughts to take with you today. Your greatest power is ALWAYS in the present moment and the choice is YOURS to make.

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"What's the good of dragging up sufferings which are over, of being unhappy now just because you were then."

Your Capacity To Create

"Embrace fully your capacity to create, to think in unlimited ways, and to pursue everything that you have been wanting. Be flexible, open and willing to let the new come to you. "This can be the most prosperous, and creative time of your life." -- Sanaya Roman and Duane Packer

Have you embraced your capacity to CREATE? Have you learned to think in UNLIMITED ways? Are you pursuing EVERYTHING you have been wanting? Why not??? You have an unlimited capacity to create (even though that art teacher in 7th grade said you couldn't). How many people believed the teacher that said something like that about your creativity? Don't believe it! We ALL have the ability to create.

Are you pursuing everything you have been wanting? Too many people put off what they truly want, thinking that they need to wait for good the good things they want. Now is the time to go after what you want. There's no need to wait. Go for it NOW!

Have you learned to think in unlimited ways? Really?? Many people have learned one way to think and that's the only way they think. Don't get stuck in that trap. There are many ways to think, you just need to get out of your own brain. Learn to think differently. Challenge you thinking. Expand your mind.

"This can be the most prosperous and creative time of your life."  Do you believe that?  Why not?  What's holding you back?  Only YOU are holding you back.  Once you realize that, make the changes that are necessary and this can be the most prosperous time of your life!

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"Embrace fully your capacity to create, to think in unlimited ways, and to pursue everything that you have been wanting. Be flexible, open and willing to let the new come to you. "This can be the most prosperous, and creative time of your life."

You Have A Choice

"You may not be able to control the events that occur during the day, especially those events that are unexpected and challenging. But, you definitely have a choice whether you are going to allow these events to ruin your day, and how you are going to face these challenges." ~Barry Gottlieb

Do you ever get up "on the wrong side of the bed?" Ever had a "bad hair day?"  Ever feel like everything is going wrong and it will never get better?  How do you handle them? Do you let them ruin your day or do you change your mindset before leaving the house? You do have a choice in how you respond to those events. Be sure to exercise that choice. Don't stay stuck in that negativity.

Too many people have allowed themselves to stay stuck in that negativity.  They enjoy being there!  It's the pain they know which will always be less than the pain they don't know.  If that's you, start counting your blessings.  You're alive.  You live in the greatest country in the world (the one everyone else in the world wants to come to) and so on.  You could probably count 100 blessings in 5 minutes.  Well, that 5 minutes would be the best time spent to get you out of that negativity.

Stephen Covey said "If you start to think the problem is 'out there,' stop yourself. That thought is the problem." Too often we get caught up in thinking the problem is 'out there' when it is really with us. Realize that you are in control of your life, no one else is. It will be your choice to either react or respond. Reaction is without thought. Response requires thought. Always respond, never react.

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"You may not be able to control the events that occur during the day, especially those events that are unexpected and challenging. But, you definitely have a choice whether you are going to allow these events to ruin your day, and how you are going to face these challenges."

Are Your Dreams Possible?

"The moment of enlightenment is when a person's dreams of possibilities become images of probabilities"~Vic Braden

What are your dreams? Do you allow them to grow or do you stomp them down so you don't really have to think about them? Do you think about them hourly, daily, weekly, monthly, yearly? Do you do more than think about them? Do you take action that brings them one step closer to probability?

Most people will say, "Sure, I have dreams. They are over there, in the 3rd drawer of my desk." That's not having a dream, that's really not even having a wish, because you aren't working towards it at all. That's just having one to say that you have one...

What is keeping you from going after your dream? Fear? Money? Family? Why are you not going after your dream? If you think about all the reasons you are not going after your dream, are any of those excuses valid or true? You may be convincing yourself that that they are valid but isn't that just another story you're telling yourself...so that you don't have to really reach for them???

Forget 'enlightenment.' When your dreams of possibilities become images of probabilities, how do you feel? I'm sure you've felt that way before. It feels GREAT! It makes you feel that you can do anything. Remember that feeling. Crystalize that feeling until you can recall how you felt with just a quick thought (will allow you to better visualize) And keep chasing your dreams!

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"The moment of enlightenment is when a person's dreams of possibilities become images of probabilities"

14 Years Later

On September 11, 2001, 19 militants associated with the Islamic extremist group al-Qaeda
hijacked four airliners and carried out suicide attacks against targets in the United States. Two of the planes were flown into the towers of the World Trade Center in New York City, a third plane hit the Pentagon just outside Washington, D.C., and the fourth plane crashed in a field in Pennsylvania. Often referred to as 9/11, the attacks resulted in extensive death and destruction, triggering major U.S. initiatives to combat terrorism and defining the presidency of George W. Bush. Over 3,000 people were killed during the attacks in New York City and Washington, D.C., including more than 400 police officers and firefighters.

So, where do things stand now?  We have a President that won't use the words "Islamic terrorists," capitulates to Iran and the nuclear negotiations, giving them everything they wanted including over 100 Billion dollars that they can use to continue to unsettle the Mideast.  They chant "Death to America" and openly say they will wipe Israel of the face of the earth and our President say that's just "political talk" for Iranian consumption and that Iran will behave...

Never forget what made this country great!  Have you forgotten?

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Failure Is Delay, Not Defeat!

"Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end." ~Denis Waitley

When did failure start being something to be avoided? As far back as I can remember, it was always something to be avoided as opposed to being something to view as experience and learned from. Most people view failure as a dead end rather than a temporary detour.  How do you see failure, as a dead end or as a roadblock?

The fastest way to success is THROUGH failure.  Thomas Watson, founder of IBM said "If you want to succeed, fail faster." What a great way to look at things! Failure is OK!!! In fact, the best way to deal with failure is to re-frame it as delay or a temporary detour or just as a learning experience.

Don't be afraid to fail. Henry Ford said "Failure allows you to begin again more intelligently." Nice, failure allows you to being again more intelligently! Start now. Fail your way to success.

Here are some other ways to view failure through different eyes:  (Tom Hopkins)

I never see failure as failure but only as a learning experience,

I never see failure as failure, only as an opportunity to practice my technique and perfect my performance,

I never see failure as failure but only as an opportunity to develop my sense of humor,

I never see failure as failure but only as the negative feedback to change course in my direction,

I never see failure as failure but only as the game I must play to win!

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"Failure should be our teacher, not our undertaker. Failure is delay not defeat. It is a temporary detour, not a dead end."

Mediocrity: Embraced By The Masses!

"Mediocrity is a form of madness, a dream embraced by the masses because it makes just getting by an acceptable -- sometimes applauded -- social art form."~Guy Finley

Have you embraced mediocrity? Really? Are you excellent in every thing? Do you always strive to be the best that you can be, or do you sometimes slack off...just a little?

We have become a society that makes getting by an art form. Working for the man, doing enough to not get fired, but not going all out to stand above the crowd. Too many people are playing small. The world is not served by your playing small...PLAY BIG!!!

Look at the things you do. What are you an expert at? What are you good at. Where have you settled on being mediocre? I'm sure there are not any places that you would say you are terrible, so let's make mediocre as the bottom rung.

How can you move out of mediocrity? Do you even want to? Or does that frighten you too much. You were meant for so much more, go for it!!!

Let's take a look at settling. One of my favorite quotes says "The place for what you want is currently occupied by what you have settled for." Is that you? Have you settled on mediocrity? I sure hope not...

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"Mediocrity is a form of madness, a dream embraced by the masses because it makes just getting by an acceptable -- sometimes applauded -- social art form."

Focus...Not A Business Only Thing

"Focus is not a 'business only' thing. Each person has only twenty-four hours per day, and how we spend those hours shows what's important in our lives. The question we must ask ourselves is...Are we focusing on what really matters?" ~Mac Anderson

Focus. What do you focus on? Whatever it is, it's important to you. Is it important to the world or anyone else? Does it matter? What does your focusing tell you about what's important to you?

Mike Murdock said "The secret to your future is hidden in your daily routine." Is what you are focusing on a routine or something that really matters. Is it just a habit or a time waster?

Steve Jobs said "Focus means saying no to the hundred other good ideas." A real interesting way to look at things, isn't it. Most people see focus as what you focus ON rather than what you don't focus on.

How are you spending your days? Are you focusing on what matters?  Only YOU can answer that question...

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"Focus is not a 'business only' thing. Each person has only twenty-four hours per day, and how we spend those hours shows what's important in our lives. The question we must ask ourselves is...Are we focusing on what really matters?"

Imagination = No Limits!

"In imagination, there's no limits."~Wayne Dyer

Are you limiting yourself by your thoughts? Are you telling yourself that you can't do something that if your tried, you really could do? Why? Why allow those negative thoughts to cloud your mind?   

Our imagination is LIMITLESS! We don't often allow ourselves to think limitless thoughts, and that's not a good thing. Once the mind is stretched to a new place, it never goes back to the same old form. Stretch you mind, allow your imagination to indeed be limitless.

Albert Einstein said "Imagination is more important that knowledge.  For knowledge is limited to all we know and understand, while imagination embraces the entire world, and all there ever will be to know and understand."  Too often we are told that knowledge is the key and here is Einstein telling us that Imagination is more important!

How can you use your imagination to do your work better, easier?

"In imagination, there's no limits."

Ignorance?

"The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you know nothing about."~Wayne Dyer

Are you rejecting new learning opportunities? Why? Always Be Learning, always. Even if something doesn't fit in what you are doing, do you reject it out of hand? Many people do and lose the chance for learning.

What about those four worst words in the English language, "I already know that." How many times a day do you say that? Why? A mentor told me a long time ago that you could hear something 99 times, but the 100th time, it makes sense! Maybe you were not ready for that truth yet, maybe you knew it a little but not on the level that you needed to know it.  

Wayne also said "If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change."  When you come across something that you know nothing about or something you might already know something about, change the way you look at them.  Look at them with new eyes, the eyes of a beginner.

Stop rejecting something you know nothing about or even something you already think you know about. This is your chance for new learning. You can always always learn something if you are open to learning it  

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."The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you know nothing about."

Opportunity Or Obstacle?

"With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose."~Wayne W. Dyer

So, do you feel sorry for yourself or do you treat what has happened as a gift?  Most people just feel sorry for themselves and it keeps them stuck where they are.  Oh sure, once in a while they step out of their victimhood however it's only for a short time and then they are back feeling sorry for themselves.

Ken Keyes Jr said “To be upset over what you don't have is to waste what you do have.”  Most people are upset over what they don't have or what they feel they aren't getting from someone else and waste what they do have.  Is that you?  I hope not.

Do you see everything as an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing? What a wonderful thing to see everything as an opportunity to grow!  We need to teach our children this.  Did you not do something right?  An opportunity to grow, not a failure.  didn't get that client?  An opportunity to grow, not a failure.  How different would our society be if we looked at failure as an opportunity to grow and not failure?  Henry Ford said "Failure is the opportunity to begin again more wisely."  An opportunity to grow!

YOU GET TO CHOOSE!  Feel sorry for yourself or a gift.  An opportunity to grow or failure?  It's always been your choice, no one elses!!

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"With everything that has happened to you, you can either feel sorry for yourself or treat what has happened as a gift. Everything is either an opportunity to grow or an obstacle to keep you from growing. You get to choose."

Your Limitless Potential!

"I can change. I can live out my imagination instead of my memory. I can tie myself to my limitless potential instead of my limiting past."~Stephen Covey

Are you living out of your imagination or out of your memory?  Most people are simply living out of their memory and because of that, they never get to where they really want to go.  Is that you? Are you stuck reliving the same old stuff, day after day, almost like that movie "Groundhog Day?"  If so, do what Bill Murray did in the movie.  He took the opportunity to learn new things, to grow and become more than he was and get what he wanted to get.  Your life isn't so different.

The challenge we face is described here by Wallace Wattles when he says, "You can never get rich, or start the creative power into action, by sending out unformed longings and vague desires."  Most people want to be "happy" or "rich" or "have a nice house."  All things that are unformed longings and vague desires.  GET SPECIFIC with what you want!  

Don't spend any time thinking about what you DON'T WANT.  Why?  Because that just attracts more of what you don't want!  You have to train your brain to focus on all the good things that you have and not on what you lack.  Focusing on your abundance, even if it's a small amount of abundance will bring you more abundance!  Your brain wants you to focus on all the things you don't have.  Work on making that brain of yours work for you, instead of against you!

Know.  Be Known.  Make A Difference!

"I can change. I can live out my imagination instead of my memory. I can tie myself to my limitless potential instead of my limiting past."